Note to self: if you want to feel better about yourself, checking how many visitors you've had to your online dating profile may not be the way to go about it. Just sayin'.
It has now been 10 days since I re-entered the world of online dating for the umpteenth time. And so far, the results are about what I expected: basically nada. As of now, I am up to 112 visitors to my profile and have been contacted by 2. (Which calculates out to 1.78%-and I really should not have calculated that). I've viewed probably about 25-30 profiles and contacted two.
The first to contact me sent me a "wink" with the comment "Nice profile." So I checked his out and found we didn't see eye-to-eye on some issues I feel are deal breakers so I sent him back a simple "Thank you." End of Story.
The second guy said I came up as one of his Quiver Matches. From what I can tell, Quiver Matches are 3 random people that you have a week to check out. After a week, supposedly you get new ones. Anyway, Quiver Match said he liked my profile and asked if we could talk sometime. So I checked out his profile and there weren't any real flags other than he doesn't believe in monogamy. I e-mailed him back, however, and tried to start a conversation. He responded with a single sentence that gave me nothing to go on. A couple of days later, he sent another message asking what I'm looking for in a man. Well, monogamy for one thing. I haven't responded yet since I'm not really sure what to say.
As for the two I contacted, the first one visited my profile a couple of times so I decided to check him out. One of the things he said was that you shouldn't be afraid to say hello. Which I actually thought was a bit hypocritical given his multiple visits to my profile without saying hello. So I said hello. We've been having a conversation about football that is pretty much going nowhere. The other one never responded to my e-mail. Oh well.
And then there are the Meetup guys. I have to say it is weird to have profiles pop up for a guy I have met and one I recognize from Meetup. I have been curious about their profiles but decided I wasn't going to look unless they checked out mine first. (I even amaze myself with my level of immaturity at times). The one I've met my friend and I refer to as Eye Candy for December (ECFD) because while I do think he's cute, I wanted to reserve the nickname of Cute Guy for December for someone who seemed like he may be interested (sadly, he wasn't. But that's another story). I've gone to a couple of events ECFD has planned through Meetup and will probably go to other events he plans so I'm not looking at his profile as that could end up being awkward. Plus I've already figured out he isn't interested.
Meetup Guy #2 is one I am in a group with and have been at an event with but didn't actually meet. He's a 92% match for me as determined by OK Cupid's high tech matching system that quite frankly reminds me of the matchmaking programs the computer science class in high school always came up with only with more grownup questions and a lot more of them. MG #2 also plans events for a group that I have considered joining off and on for months but have yet to pull the trigger.
Well, he looked at my profile last night. So I looked at his. And I have to admit I'm intrigued. Not enough to contact him but enough to see if Guy Pal knows him since he seems to know everyone. (Although I did inform him Saturday he needs more single guy friends as the current dynamic of always ending up in a group of women isn't really working for me). As silly as this is, I was excited to see he's the only one whose profile I've looked at that has answered the stupid question about the price of the apple correctly. (I'm pretty sure that says something about me).
I will admit I am disappointed but I am taking it more tongue in cheek than I normally do. It's been suggested that maybe my profile is too broad and I need to be more specific (technically, that was suggested to someone else but it applies to me too). I was also told I should upload the recently taken picture of me actually wearing a dress. I guess I'll give that a try. What do I really have to lose? Sigh...I'm off to retool my profile. Hopefully with positive results.