I have made no secret of the fact I am not a fan of online dating. Mainly because I suck at it due to the fact I have no patience and am not really that thick-skinned, which they don't tell you is a requirement when you fill out the profile. Every time I create a profile, I end up taking it down a short time later because I get discouraged and I beat myself up over it. I do have to say this attempt has gone slightly better than the others.
It turns out Guy Pal does indeed know MG #2, as I figured he would. He thinks MG #2 is a great guy but not someone I would find attractive. But Guy Pal decided he, MG #2, another friend of his and I should get together and hang out. I agreed. MG #2 agreed. We submitted our schedules to Guy Pal so he could coordinate this. And then MG #2 blocked my profile. (Seriously?!) And then he wanted to know when we were going to meet. So Guy Pal asked why he blocked my profile and was told MG #2 did not think we'd be a good fit. So I decided I didn't want to meet him. (I have so not evolved past the age of 12). I don't want to waste my time meeting someone who has already indicated he isn't really that interested in meeting me when I could be using that time to put myself in a position to meet someone who looks across the room and says "Who's THAT?!?!" (It happened once. It can happen again).
But I have to admit this stung. Really stung. Guy Pal has told me some things about MG #2 that made me ask why he was pushing so hard for us to meet as he wasn't doing a good job of selling him to me. Guy Pal has good intentions. He wants me to be happy. I indicated interest so he wanted me to see if there was something to it-if this was someone I would connect with. I can't fault him for that.
In the meantime, I read a profile that cracked me up. There were a couple of red flags-he didn't seem to be a dog person and he has red hair. Try as I might, I just can't seem to make myself attracted to redheads. But despite this, I e-mailed him anyway. And he responded. So we e-mailed back and forth a couple of times and he told me he didn't think we were a good match for long term dating, which I agreed with, but wanted to know if I would like to meet to see if there was a potential for friendship. I agreed to that. Then he asked if we did meet and the chemistry was there if I'd be interested in a "friends with benefits" deal. I politely said no. I also told him I was disabling my account because I only set it up one day because I was bored. I gave him my e-mail address in case he still wanted to meet. Apparently with the possibility of sex off the table, the potential for friendship went away too because I never heard from him again.
So I disabled my account. (And literally as soon as I hit the button to do that got an e-mail for speed dating, which I found amusing). It's not deleted; just hidden so I can go back and access it if I want to. But I don't. I've felt a lot lighter since disabling it. This was taking too much of my focus and the guys I did e-mail not even checking out my profile, plus being blocked by someone who supposedly wanted to meet me and apparently only being attractive enough to the one I did have contact with to be a casual fling left me feeling like a man repellent. And of course, that just makes me miss James and the sure thing I had.
So I'm done with online dating. Again. Hopefully for good this time. I'm pretty old-fashioned so it seems more fitting that I should meet Mystery Husband #2 the old-fashioned way. I just need to figure out what-or rather where-that is.