Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Yet another online dating update.

I have made no secret of the fact I am not a fan of online dating.  Mainly because I suck at it due to the fact I have no patience and am not really that thick-skinned, which they don't tell you is a requirement when you fill out the profile.  Every time I create a profile, I end up taking it down a short time later because I get discouraged and I beat myself up over it.  I do have to say this attempt has gone slightly better than the others.

It turns out Guy Pal does indeed know MG #2, as I figured he would.  He thinks MG #2 is a great guy but not someone I would find attractive.  But Guy Pal decided he, MG #2, another friend of his and I should get together and hang out.  I agreed.  MG #2 agreed.  We submitted our schedules to Guy Pal so he could coordinate this.  And then MG #2 blocked my profile.  (Seriously?!)  And then he wanted to know when we were going to meet.  So Guy Pal asked why he blocked my profile and was told MG #2 did not think we'd be a good fit.  So I decided I didn't want to meet him.  (I have so not evolved past the age of 12).  I don't want to waste my time meeting someone who has already indicated he isn't really that interested in meeting me when I could be using that time to put myself in a position to meet someone who looks across the room and says "Who's THAT?!?!"  (It happened once.  It can happen again).

But I have to admit this stung.  Really stung.  Guy Pal has told me some things about MG #2 that made me ask why he was pushing so hard for us to meet as he wasn't doing a good job of selling him to me.  Guy Pal has good intentions.  He wants me to be happy.  I indicated interest so he wanted me to see if there was something to it-if this was someone I would connect with.  I can't fault him for that.

In the meantime, I read a profile that cracked me up.  There were a couple of red flags-he didn't seem to be a dog person and he has red hair.  Try as I might, I just can't seem to make myself attracted to redheads.  But despite this, I e-mailed him anyway.  And he responded.  So we e-mailed back and forth a couple of times and he told me he didn't think we were a good match for long term dating, which I agreed with, but wanted to know if I would like to meet to see if there was a potential for friendship.  I agreed to that.  Then he asked if we did meet and the chemistry was there if I'd be interested in a "friends with benefits" deal.  I politely said no.  I also told him I was disabling my account because I only set it up one day because I was bored.  I gave him my e-mail address in case he still wanted to meet.  Apparently with the possibility of sex off the table, the potential for friendship went away too because I never heard from him again.

So I disabled my account.  (And literally as soon as I hit the button to do that got an e-mail for speed dating, which I found amusing).  It's not deleted; just hidden so I can go back and access it if I want to.  But I don't.  I've felt a lot lighter since disabling it.  This was taking too much of my focus and the guys I did e-mail not even checking out my profile, plus being blocked by someone who supposedly wanted to meet me and apparently only being attractive enough to the one I did have contact with to be a casual fling left me feeling like a man repellent.   And of course, that just makes me miss James and the sure thing I had. 

So I'm done with online dating.  Again.  Hopefully for good this time.  I'm pretty old-fashioned so it seems more fitting that I should meet Mystery Husband #2 the old-fashioned way.  I just need to figure out what-or rather where-that is.


Matrimonial Com said...

Informative read about online dating,Online dating sites today have a number of advanced features.The main advantage to online dating is that every member is looking for the same thing a relationship with someone they are compatible with.

Anonymous said...

So did the red head ever email back. He obiviolsly was married or girlfriend. Men r pigs. Its tough for women to be single n trustB

Heather said...

Anonymous, Nope. Never heard from him again, which was how I figured it would go down.